We're always hearing that we could be having better sexa better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we actually hear the nitty-gritty details of how we might actually achieve those things? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapistto help us out with the specifics.
Orgasms are awesome. I know, what a controversial statement. Waves of pleasure followed by a sense of relaxation and contentment are great?
All photos by Steph Wilson. I am grinding my pelvis in semicircles whilst l lie on the floor, imagining a red light is glowing out of my perineum. Around me twelve strangers moan while doing the same.
Female masturbation is often seen as a taboo subject. Despite research showing that women masturbate as frequently as men, it's still not a topic that all females openly discuss. The Swedes have even created a new term for female masturbation in an attempt to stop women from being put off talking about the topic by the usual male-associated words.
Located above the opening of the urethra, your clitoris is your most sensitive erogenous zone and the primary source of vaginal sexual pleasure. Knowledge is your best friend when it comes to knowing how to move your clit around a whole bunch. The anatomy of the vagina is complicated, but unbeknownst to many, the orgasm is actually extremely achievable simply by doing that, but a lot.
Masturbation is something that we rarely talk about, but why? Not only is it so great for your confidence, happiness, and overall pleasure, but it can actually make sex with your partner better too. But changing up the way you show yourself some love can really open you up and allow you to discover more about your turn-ons and desires.
In my 20s, I was oddly committed to seeking out my orgasms from other people a notoriously unreliable source. I understand having to work through shame and body issues before becoming completely comfortable with self-pleasure, but I really recommend doing whatever unblocking you need to start to pushing your own buttons ASAP. But you have to promise to control your inner Cersei; a person can get drunk off this much power.
Masturbation can be totally daunting. I also get frustrated by how easily I can get thrown off course, or about how particular I am with my environment. Ultimately, though, I feel happy to have one reliable way to get myself off.
You wake up late on a Saturday morning You want to get it on, in, and everywhere in between, but your booty call is currently off-limits duh—it's daylight and the date you had last week was, let's be real, a total dud. What's a girl to do?
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. Save Your Sex Life. Often women come to see a sex therapist wanting to learn how to have an orgasm while simultaneously feeling like failures because the sexual techniques they have tried haven't resulted in having the Big O.